I had graduated from college two years earlier. I had moved back to my old home church. It was a large church, but it had a struggling singles group (it would grow large, members of the group had the tendency to get married and “graduate out”!). The Sunday school class for the singles group had an “older” adult (i.e., someone over 40 – my that looks young now!) assigned as an advisor to the class. I’m sure his function was to keep us on the straight and narrow, theologically and otherwise. Let's call the advisor Kevin. For some reason, I ended up as the singles leader, which meant I met a lot with Kevin to discuss direction and Sunday school class topics. In one of my meetings with Kevin, I had the brilliant idea of a series of classes on the Lord's Prayer. I had seen a book on the Lord's Prayer at an InterVarsity conference in college. The conversation went something like this.
Earl: One class or series we could do is the Lord’s Prayer.
Kevin: You know that The Lord's Prayer is not for our dispensation.
Earl, surprised: Really?
Kevin: Yes, it was for the dispensation of Jesus' ministry with the disciples until his death.
Earl: You mean the prayer was good for only two or three years?
Kevin: Yes, and not many people realize it. But our pastor knows that. He knows it's wrong, he’s had theological training.
Earl: But we say The Lord's Prayer in the church service almost every Sunday.
Kevin: Yes, and we shouldn't. I've talked to the pastor about it and how wrong it is to do it. So when the pastor leads us in The Lord’s Prayer, I don't close my eyes and I stare at him, just so he knows that I know he didn't do the right thing.
Earl: Oh. Maybe we could do a class on something else.
Kevin: No, I think The Lord's Prayer is a good idea. It's time people hear good doctrine.
Earl (thinking how he could avoid this altogether): Ah, maybe we could list different topics we could teach and let the class choose.
Kevin: That's a good idea.
Earl: I'll put together a list to hand out next Sunday.
Kevin: Swell.
So, I put together a list for people to vote on. I left out the choice on The Lord’s Prayer, on purpose. I knew something was wrong in Kevin’s approach, and I didn't want to get in a war over it. The class decided on the topics it was interested, sans The Lord’s Prayer.
Well, I heard about it from Kevin the next week.
Kevin: You intentionally left out The Lord’s Prayer.
Earl: Yes, I thought it was too controversial to include it.
Kevin: You stabbed me in the back. How can I trust you?
Earl: Sorry, but I felt I had to do this.
In a few weeks, Kevin no longer was the class advisor.
How are we to deal with theological controversy? The short answer, it all depends
and probably not the way I did it. I have my excuses. With Kevin, I felt I was at a strong disadvantage. I was young, in my twenties, Kevin was older and I needed to show respect. I knew Kevin had studied this topic for years, while I had barely thought about it. However I knew I had church history on my side. I knew that Martin Luther had written about The Lord’s Prayer. At InterVarsity we had talked about it and that it was part of the valuable tradition of the vast majority of Evangelical Protestants. But I wasn't ready at that time to stand my ground, and even if I were fully ready to do so, I would not change Kevin's mind no matter what I said. The animosity would be so high that it would rupture our working relationship; in fact I felt there was no way to avoid the rupture.
Looking back, after all these years, and then again thinking about it after this first draft, I don't think I took the right approach. I simply hate face to face conflict. I like the concept expressed by Peter Ustinov in the movie Luther, as Frederick the Wise, when dealing with the strong Roman Catholic Church’s demand to turn over Martin Luther. It fits with my conflict avoidance tendencies:
Spalatin, there are two ways of saying no to someone you believe to be stronger than yourself.
The first is to say nothing and go on merely doing what you were doing before, and pretend that you never heard, allow time and inertia to be your allies.
... And the second is to say no in such a kind and thoughtful way it befuddles them.
Naturally, if both these strategies fail, there is nothing but to relent.
Or to fight:
And of course, if you decide to fight, you also have to decide to win.
With Kevin, I tried approach 1, say nothing and pretend I never heard. But Kevin was smarter than that, and he pressed the issue so that I could not say "no" in a kind and thoughtful way to befuddle Kevin. So, I actually had to fight, which goes against my nature. But I fought in a deceptive way. I knew that if the fight went public, Kevin would be pitted against the pastor and probably some other church leaders in a public way. I quietly stonewalled, knowing that Kevin saw what I was doing, but he could not do anything except express his disappointment and anger against me. I then let time take its course.
I find it is difficult for me to look back and think about this clearly. My first edition of this entry I thought I was justified in what I did. Now, reflecting on it, I don't think so. In hindsight, I should have been more direct with Kevin. I would have shown greater respect for Kevin had I done so. Perhaps the break was not inevitable. Perhaps we could have come to a agreement to disagree and drop this as a class topic. Perhaps we could have done the class presenting the different views. I could have really grown, all of us could have grown. Perhaps what Kevin was really disappointed in was my lack of backbone and character. Perhaps we could have grown through that conflict, I would have developed character, and perhaps have developed a life-long friend who would have been a huge help in my young spiritual life that tended towards apathy, neglect, and prejudice against others who think differently than me.
Theological battles continue. As I start teaching Revelation, I am reminded of other battles that surround the book of Revelation. How are we to deal with those?
There are two goals that need to be preserved in the church, and sometimes those goals seem to conflict. The first is
purity of
doctrine and
conduct. The second is
peace among the people of Christ. Assuming these are "peer" equal adults, where one is not in a power situation that I found myself in years ago, I have the following suggestions:
(1) Often the difference of opinion does not amount to a hill of beans in the ultimate theological scheme of things. Agree to disagree agreeably. Enjoy each other and take the opportunity to discuss things amicably. Try to see what the other sees, why he or she sees things that way and see if that is something you need to consider.
(2) At times the difference does represent an important secondary difference in theological issues. If the difference deals with issues that, even though it is secondary, but the church does have an official stand on it, the dissenter needs to determine if the issue is large enough that they cannot be at home in the church. Those who agree with the church’s position should treat the dissenter with respect. Since it is a secondary issue, the main importance is to keep the peace of the church.
(3) The issue touches on central theological issues. It could be that the deity of Christ is at stake, or justification by grace alone through faith along is at issue, or some other major theological issue. The church has every right to defend these doctrines, and if a dissenter is disrupting the purity of the doctrines of the church, he or she is also disrupting the peace of the church. Depending on how much the dissenter is disrupting the peace and purity of the church will determine the course of action that needs to be taken.
With respect to Revelation, our church allows
members to hold a wide variety of views. This can range from many forms of Futurism (Historical Premillennialism, to one of the many Dispensational Premillennialisms), to Postmillennialism, Amillennialism, and some forms of Preterism. The
officers of the church have
stricter guidelines. This can range from Partial Preterism, Amillenialism, Postmillennialism, and Historical Premillennialism. For many people, these are foreign words, and that's okay. As the class progresses, we will come across many opportunities to see differences in views – even among the most knowledgeable and respected Reformed theologians.
Let us realize we are at war with Satan and his minions, not against each other. Let us keep the peace with each other and respect each other. Speak kindly of opposing viewpoints and their advocates. I hope that the class can be a fun catalyst for discussion, and more importantly, that we understand the major themes of Revelation and apply the scriptures to our lives.
As I look back on this entry, I realize I didn't respect Kevin, let alone show respect. It reflects on my character. I can't even tell the story right, there are things I put in Kevin's mouth that he did not say (such as, "It's time people hear good doctrine." -- he probably said something more like, "I would be good to discuss this.", this puts a different spin on his statement). I try to justify myself by putting him down. I am even a deceiver after all these years. There are various ways which I demonize this who disagree with me. Kevin was not and is not my enemy, but I treated him as one, even to this day. I broke the peace of the church without advancing the purity of the church.
Christ alone is our justifier. At times in Revelation you may discover you cannot endure the Christian life on your own. I can't. Revelation has good news. You are in Christ, and because of Christ, even though your works are filthy, you have robes washed in the blood of the Lamb. You are sealed and protected by God -- and while you may get hurt in the battles, you ultimately are part of the redeemed, being restored. Because of that, we don't have to stay in our sin, we can move on. Christ has justified us through his death, we are holy and we are marked by God as belonging to him.